Ask Amy: Noise from neighbors’ renovations annoys new pup

Dear Amy: I live in New York City in a co-op building. The adjacent apartment was sold eight months ago and has been vacant ever since.

I work from home doing some freelance writing, and I teach audio lessons via Zoom. I always have two to eight voice students – of all ages.

I’ve wanted a canine companion for a very long time. Three weeks ago I brought a puppy home.

A week later, I got a notice that the next-door apartment was going to undergo a gut renovation that would last for at least three months.

The renovation started last week and the sound was as loud and annoying as you might think.

I can’t take business calls and I can’t do audio lessons from my home.

Even worse, my puppy is so afraid of being hit (who can blame her?) that she is shivering and anxious.

The big bugaboo? I am in a very tight financial situation and do not have the ability to rent a pet friendly coworking space in the area.

As far as I know, I don’t know of any pet-friendly audio studios.

I also don’t have the financial means to send a puppy to daycare every day. The vet said they could prescribe her some anti-anxiety medication.

Am I totally out of luck here, or am I allowed to claim compensation for evacuating my house during construction hours, plus money for meds/t-shirt for a puppy?

Break thirty things

Dear Brooke: If you are renting your apartment from the unit owner, you should contact the landlord regarding any reduction or compensation in rent while the work is done on the next house. If you are a co-op owner, you should contact your building manager and co-op board to inquire about any potential compensation.

An obvious solution is to move virtual audio lessons and other phone work to evenings and weekends, when the neighboring apartment is quiet.

You can try to hold the puppy in a dog leash as much as possible while you are indoors, and spend a lot of time outside during these warm months.

However, due to the shock of this sudden noise to your puppy, I strongly suggest that you try hard to find someone to take care of this little dog in their home until the demolition and renovation work is completed nearby and your apartment is quieter.

Your vet — or the individual or entity you got the puppy from — may have ideas for people to take care of your dog temporarily.

Dogs can be expensive. You should realistically determine if you can take good care of this puppy.

Dear Amy: My dad, who is 83, tries to force me to fix fences with my sister.

My sister does not ask for reconciliation. She doesn’t call, and she never calls me.

This is not a recent rift, but something that has grown over the past 30 years.

I chose to stay away from her because she constantly frustrates me.

I pointed this out to my dad. Honestly, I just want to be left alone.

I like to keep in touch with my elderly parents, so I keep in touch with them, but what can I say to my parents, other than get really angry?

I don’t understand why he always takes her by her side.

– Save my distances

Dear Distance: Every parent wants their children to get along. This desire is simply aligned with parenting.

I hope you are understanding and patient with your father.

When your father mentions this, you can respond with a “reflection.” This simply reflects his own thoughts to him, so he knows you have heard and understood him.

You don’t need to elaborate, blame, or justify your actions: “Dad, I know you want us to be better friends, but it’s not happening, and it’s not your fault. Let’s talk about something else.”

Dear Amy: A woman anticipating her “Yikes” question wondered how she would change her lifestyle of “love bombing” for men, plunge into relationships, and then abruptly cut it off when she came to her senses — years later.

I thought your advice to her was good, but after reading her question I immediately came to the conclusion that she has a very specific personality disorder. I wonder how (or why) you missed it!

– Aware

Dear Perceive: I don’t diagnose people with these pages.

Mainly – I don’t qualify!

However, I recommended the treatment. This is where any diagnosis should occur.

paying off Ask previous Emmy columns

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