Phyllis Adele Mullen “Pam” Walters was born on September 21, 1941 in Grandview Hospital, Dayton, Ohio to her loving parents, Earl and Myrtle Mullen (deceased). Pam grew up in a loving home that offers dance lessons and piano lessons.
Additionally, her father taught her woodworking and how to fix things around the house. Her mother was interested in art and taught Pam to paint, watercolor, and sew.
Pam attended Wilbur Wright High School and graduated in May 1959. She attended the University of Miami, Oxford, Ohio and earned her BA in Elementary Education, graduating in May, 1963. At the University of Miami, Pam tried a synchronized swimming (technical swimming) team and was on the team for two years. Three years plus doing modern dance for the Miami Dance Club.
Pam Mullen and Dale Walters married on July 20, 1963 in First Christian Church, Dayton, Ohio, then moved to Richmond, Virginia for Dale to earn a master’s degree in psychology while Pam was teaching first grade. For two summers in Richmond, Pam taught swimming lessons (a nature teacher) for a private daycare pool. In August 1965, Pam and Dale moved to Knoxville, Tennessee, for Dale to work on his Ph.D. in psychology and Pam taught first grade. Pam and Dale moved in August 1966 to Topeka, Kansas where Dale accepted a position at the Menninger Corporation and temporarily ended his postgraduate education. Pam, again, tutored elementary school with $501.
Pam and Dale enjoyed Topeka, developed friendships, traveled the country, attended the Kansas City Symphony Orchestra as well as Sunflower Music Festivals, and took vacations, especially in Colorado and the Ozarks. Then, in April 1969, Pam and Dale adopted the cute baby girl and named her Marcy Lynn Walters. spoiled by Pam and Dale, loved and cared for her. Then, in August 1971, Pam and Dale adopted a baby boy and named him Ward Owen Walters. They also spoiled him, loved him, and cared for him. Pam was a great mom, she was supportive and guiding her children in different ways. Now, Pam has stopped teaching full-time to be with her children and has become a substitute teacher, sometimes helping with the $501 school system. As the kids got older, Pam started teaching bridge to newcomers in our dining room, then began teaching bridge at Crestview Community Center as well as teaching introductory dance to beginners there as well.
Pam loved to dance and years ago at the old Flaming Steer (south of Topeka, Blvd.), Pam and Dale won the competition for Best Jetberg Dancers.
Years passed, children grew up, Marcy attended Kansas State University and earned a degree in interior design and Ward worked at Tony’s Restaurant and Pizza Hut. Then, Ward was in a car accident and killed in February 1993. It got us all into a meltdown, especially Pam who got depressed, anxious and drank to deal with her feelings. Pam and Dale tried to work things out after thirty-two years of marriage, but they separated in September 1995. Pam and Dale continued to keep in touch, helping each other through some difficult times until Pam was ordered to go to a nursing home for compulsory care in September 2006. Pam and Dale continued to meet, go on vacations together, go to concerts, visit friends, and Marcy and his grandson Devin. Then in 2012, Pam was also diagnosed with COPD and dementia, both of which developed gradually until recently when Pam had great difficulty breathing despite the presence of oxygen. Pam passed away of COPD on Sunday, July 31, 2022 at the Advina Nursing Home, Topeka, Kansas where she received very good care. Pam is survived by her daughter, Marcy Lynn Barclay, of Overland Park, Kansas. Her grandson, Devin Alan Barclay, of Overland Park, KS and her ex-husband and boyfriend, Dale Walters, Topeka, KS. Additionally, Pam is survived by her niece, Vicki Head (and her family) and husband Larry, Troy, Ohio, and her niece, Becky Chaff Lininger (and her family), London, Ohio and her nephew, Bruce Mullen (and his family), his wife Janet, Tampa, Florida and many more. Cousins are in Ohio, Kentucky, Pennsylvania, Indiana, Arizona, Alabama, and West Virginia.
It will be a memorial and minor visitation from 3 PM to 5 PM on Monday, August 8, 2022 at Penwell-Gabel Funeral Home, 1321SW 10th Ave. , Topeka, K. S. (eds.). In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Topeka Performing Arts, School Time Series, 214 SE 8th Ave. , Topeka, KS 66603. To leave a message for the Pam family, please visit www.PenwellGabelTopeka.com.
Published online August 02, 2022
Published in Topeka Capital Journal